Anonymous Client – San Jose
Praises of the Collaborative Process
I often tell people that my divorce was transformational… and in a very positive way. They don’t believe me! But it’s true. I came into the collaborative process deeply saddened and scared. My coach and lawyer, really all of the collaborative team, helped me to find my center and my voice. Several years have passed, and I can honestly say that my ex and I have an okay relationship, my kids are doing very well, and I have surpassed my wildest dreams in terms of both professional and personal success. Many divorces are expensive. Mine, though was priceless. I’m deeply grateful to my team and sing the praises of the collaborative process every time I can.
Anonymous Client
I told my lawyer at the beginning that he was going to have to talk for me in the meetings. I would get so choked up when my ex was in the room, I couldn’t speak. My lawyer was so great… he told me that he was not going to speak for me, but that he and my coach were going to help me speak for myself. Long story short, I found my voice. Yeah!
Divorce Options® Workshop Participant
Great workshop! Thanks so much for the Q & A.
Divorce Options® Workshop Participant
Discussion leaders in every category were very detailed and did not rush.
Divorce Options® Workshop Participant
Everyone was wonderful! I am a bit overwhelmed, but appreciate the information.
Anonymous Client
My ex was a basket case when we started. Her coach really helped and (the financial professional) was great at being super patient with her. I think if we’d tried to do the divorce any other way, we’d still be fighting.
Anonymous Client
The trouble with the collaborative process is that nobody has heard of it. All through my divorce, my friends kept telling me I needed to hire a stronger attorney, one who would fight for me and win. Well… in the end, I do feel I won, big time. I not only got a great settlement in terms of the money, I’m also sure we got the best results possible for our kids. We’re never going to be that divorced couple who celebrate Christmas together. But the kids know that we can and will come to their weddings and be good with each other, which might not have happened if we’d stayed married, and certainly wouldn’t have happened if we’d made the divorce into a war. To me, that’s priceless.
Anonymous Client
I think this is probably true of a lot of marriages that end in divorce: neither one of us felt “heard.” The [collaborative] process was an eye-opener… and an “ear-opener” I guess you’d say. We each got to say our piece. And, I can’t speak for my ex, but I felt she “got” what I was talking about in a deep way. To me, that was what made my divorce really a completion. When we were done, we were DONE. And now we’re okay parents together. I’m not mad at her, she’s not mad at me. I’m really grateful to [my coach], for showing me the way.
Divorce Options® Workshop Participant
It was great!
Anonymous Client
I know people who paid like ten times more than we did and got a lot less, and they’re still fighting. All of us have the piece of paper, but me, I’ve got peace of mind.