When you hear the word “relationship,” what comes to mind? Many of us think about the feelings we associate with romantic partnerships, whether warm and loving or painful and heartbreaking. Yet as Pepperdine University's Dr. Louis Cozolino writes, the field of interpersonal neurobiology understands humans as individuals born into relationships. Through myriad relationships from birth to … [Read more...] about How Gray Divorce Affects Family Relationships: Adult Children Can Hurt Too.
Preserving relationships in a divorce is especially important when a couple shares children. And whether they’re minor children or adult children, you’re still their parents. They’re going to love both of you. The last thing children want to see is their parents at odds with each other. They don’t want the conflict. They don’t want to be caught in the middle. … [Read more...] about The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce
Divorces aren’t always acrimonious. Many are amicable, with spouses realizing that they just don’t want to be married anymore – and for one reason or another, they want to stay in touch. Can they go so far as to remain friends? It is possible to be friends with an ex-spouse. It is also possible to have that friendship take a bad turn if you don’t handle the situation … [Read more...] about Can You Be Friends After You Get Divorced?
What is the story of your marriage and divorce? When speaking with your friends or family, what is the story you tell of your relationship? Are you talking mainly about the arguments or misdeeds, betrayals, disappointments, and losses? Do you focus on the negative experiences and overlook or even deny the positive experiences? Is it possible that you are defending yourself from … [Read more...] about Must We Say We Did Not Love? Honor the relationship that ended through a new story and rituals.