For parents who are considering divorce, the prospect of having to change holiday traditions can be daunting. From the time the kids are very small, many parents love to create traditions for religious and civic holidays. Repeating those traditions by having the same foods and activities can be deeply grounding and fulfilling for children and parents alike. When you divorce, change is part of the … [Read more...] about Scared To Divorce: Is This The Last Christmas (or Diwali or Hanukkah)?
Tune In to Your Internal Station It’s natural to have a whole bundle of tangled feelings and thoughts about the divorce and leading up to the divorce. Therapy can be one of your best bets in terms of making time and space for yourself and the myriad of thoughts and feelings that are coming in. Listening in on your internal dialogue, having a place to unpack and unfold what is happening inside … [Read more...] about How To Keep Conflict Low In Your Divorce
Children of all ages are stressed when their parents get a divorce. It is even more stressful for minor children who feel their own future is uncertain. They don’t know the impact the divorce will have on their own lives. Parents often make mistakes, generally unwittingly, that can make the process more difficult. 6 Mistakes Parents Make During Divorce Some of the most … [Read more...] about Avoid These Parenting Mistakes During a Divorce
The word “coach” has many meanings. Collaborative Divorce Coaches differ significantly from the “certified divorce coaches” who have proliferated in the past ten years. Collaborative Divorce Coaches work as part of a professional team in a voluntary divorce process called Collaborative Divorce, where a team of professionals helps you co-create your agreements respectfully without the … [Read more...] about How Can a Divorce Coach Help You During Your Separation and Divorce?
Preserving relationships in a divorce is especially important when a couple shares children. And whether they’re minor children or adult children, you’re still their parents. They’re going to love both of you. The last thing children want to see is their parents at odds with each other. They don’t want the conflict. They don’t want to be caught in the middle. … [Read more...] about The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce
Taking care of yourself during the divorce process is extremely important. People going through a divorce benefit from remaining positive, but this can be difficult to do when the most common emotions around this transition are fear, grief, and anger. Here are three self care tips to make the divorce process easier. 1) Go to Counseling People going through a divorce should consider … [Read more...] about 3 Tips for Self-Care During Divorce
Research has shown that out of 49 life events, divorce is the second most stressful experience of a person’s life. The only thing more stressful is the death of a spouse. Getting the right support while in the divorce process is crucial to a person’s mental health and the ability to make good decisions. Help from a Licensed Mental Health Professional Going through the divorce … [Read more...] about Managing Mental Health During Divorce
At this point you’ve seen all the quotes about healthy communication being the cornerstone of any long-lasting relationship. If you’re reading this, chances are you and your soon to be ex haven’t been communicating well for quite some time now. In today’s blog entry, I’m sharing some handy communication skills that will help improve the communication between you and your spouse even … [Read more...] about 5 Tips for Communicating During a Divorce
Couples going through a divorce generally already have a problem communicating. Those problems often get worse during this time with the upheaval of their lives and the change in the family structure. It is common to find that a couple’s main mode of communication with one another results in one of them getting angry and the other one giving their partner the silent treatment. This … [Read more...] about Communicating with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
Listening deeply and without judgment helps you understand the emotions and intentions behind the spoken words so that the person speaking feels heard and understood. Listening without judgment is NOT waiting for your turn to talk or rebuttal what your partner is saying. There is a story about a world leader who attended Harvard’s world-renowned Program on Negotiation. His cohort … [Read more...] about What Is Effective Communication During a Divorce?
How to manage COVID-19 stress on top of divorce stress Perhaps you have decided to divorce or are in the initial stages of separation. Or perhaps you have already separated, and you and your ex are sharing time with your children. Suddenly, you are blindsided by the pandemic. On top of all the stress of the divorce, now we have the stress of the quarantine. What should … [Read more...] about Caught by the Coronavirus Crisis During Your Divorce?
Dividing property incident to divorce is not just putting your assets into one pile for each spouse. You also must divide the debt that the community has accumulated during the course of your marriage. In California, community property includes all assets and liabilities incurred from the date you married until the date you separated other than separate property that was given … [Read more...] about Dealing with Debt during Divorce
Yes, no matter what process you choose for your divorce, the California Courts require full financial disclosure of all income, assets, and expenses. Honestly, I think this is an important requirement even though it can be difficult and cumbersome. In mediation or collaboration where both parties are working together the financial disclosure process can be less complicated because there … [Read more...] about Financial Disclosures during my Divorce, really? Do I have to?