No one would disagree that saving money, time, and energy in your divorce is good for mind, body, and wallet. If your goal is efficiency and being mindful about how your actions affect the outcome of your divorce in terms of money in the bank and time it takes, just do the opposite of these top tips.

- Sweat the big stuff and the small stuff.
- Fight over every single thing, no matter the economic value. For instance, if you have a $500 espresso machine that you want to get in the divorce, spend more than $500 fighting for it.
- Focus on revenge.
- Make sure you are blinded by anger and surrounded by friends who enable your anger. Refuse to see a therapist or reach out for help.
- Get in your own way.
- If you can’t afford to stay in the house, stay in it anyway. If you need to get a job, refuse to get one and have less money to live on.
- Fight for the principal.
- Don’t think about the cost-benefit analysis or practical issues; focus only on the principal of the matter.
- Contact your lawyer constantly.
- Email your lawyer over every thought and concern you have, several times a day; ask the same question over and over again. Don’t follow his or her advice.
- Blame everyone.
- Take no responsibility for any aspect of your case or your divorce.
- Go to court often.
- Only resolve disputes by going to court, even over the smallest issue.