Choosing the Process That Best Fits Your Family The First Decision May Not Be the One You Think Most people don't expect to become experts on divorce. They certainly don't expect to be researching legal processes, parenting plans, retirement division, or support calculations. Yet there comes a point for many couples when they recognize that, despite years of effort, counseling, compromise, … [Read more...] about How Do We Want to Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce
“How Do You Rebuild Financially After a Long‑Term Marriage Ends?”
A Simple Roadmap for Starting Fresh Divorce after a long marriage can feel like having the rug pulled out from under you. Your routines change. Your home may change. And your finances—well, they suddenly need a brand‑new plan. Even if you are eligible for spousal support, it is just one piece of a much bigger financial picture. The good news? You can rebuild. And it starts with a simple, … [Read more...] about “How Do You Rebuild Financially After a Long‑Term Marriage Ends?”
What is the Difference Between Mediation and Collaborative Divorce?
Mediation and Collaborative Divorce both keep couples out of court and allow you and your spouse to control the outcome of your divorce. Mediation uses one neutral professional and is typically faster and more affordable, while Collaborative Divorce relies on a full support team—including attorneys, divorce coaches, and a financial neutral—making it better suited for higher-conflict or more … [Read more...] about What is the Difference Between Mediation and Collaborative Divorce?
Why Collaborative Divorce Is Harder Than Court
And Why That Actually Matters If you’re considering collaborative divorce, chances are you’ve already been treated to the usual sales pitch. You have probably heard that it is more peaceful, less adversarial, and better for everyone. Those phrases get repeated a lot, usually without much explanation. Sure, those things are true. But they don’t tell the whole story. Half-truths can get you … [Read more...] about Why Collaborative Divorce Is Harder Than Court
Part 2: Benefits, Challenges, and Future of Collaborative Law in California
Collaborative Law offers several advantages for people who want a fair and peaceful resolution. Still, the system faces some challenges and limits: From a policy viewpoint, Collaborative Practice supports the state’s larger goal of reducing crowded court dockets and promoting peaceful conflict resolution. Some family courts already encourage parties to try cooperative approaches before … [Read more...] about Part 2: Benefits, Challenges, and Future of Collaborative Law in California
Part 1 — What Collaborative Law Is and How It Works
In California, most family law disagreements have traditionally gone through the court system. That system is called adversarial because each side fights to win. Court cases can be long, costly, and stressful for everyone involved. To give families another choice, lawyers in California began using a different approach called Collaborative Law. Collaborative Law, also called Collaborative … [Read more...] about Part 1 — What Collaborative Law Is and How It Works
California’s New “Joint Petition for Dissolution” Will Benefit Spouses In Collaborative Divorce Cases Starting January 1, 2026
Beginning in January 2026, California’s Family Code introduces a transformative change that will benefit spouses seeking a collaborative divorce. With the passage of Senate Bill 1427, married couples seeking to divorce amicably may file a “Joint Petition for Dissolution” of marriage or legal separation. Although California has allowed spouses to file a joint petition for a summary … [Read more...] about California’s New “Joint Petition for Dissolution” Will Benefit Spouses In Collaborative Divorce Cases Starting January 1, 2026
COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE THROUGH THE EYES OF A LITIGATOR
I have litigated cases all over Southern California for almost twenty years. I actually enjoy preparing direct and cross examination questions as well as opening and closing and I feel I am quite good at it. I even like being in trial. I find that when I listen to judges make rulings from the bench I am in awe of their ability to handle case loads exceeding 10-20 cases a day and remain crystal … [Read more...] about COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE THROUGH THE EYES OF A LITIGATOR
Why Some Adult Children Disconnect From a Parent During and After Divorce
The estrangement of adult children from their divorcing parents is a complex issue with multiple contributing factors. Key Insights: Divorce often strains and sometimes severs the attachment bonds between parents and their adult children. With increased life expectancy, divorcing parents today may have adult children spanning ages 18 to 70, along with grandchildren and … [Read more...] about Why Some Adult Children Disconnect From a Parent During and After Divorce
January 2025 is the 17th Anniversary of January being the International Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month
As the calendar turns to a new year, we find ourselves filled with a renewed sense of hope and new possibilities. The transition into a fresh year offers a chance to "put things behind us and start anew." January sees a noticeable uptick in divorce filings, which makes it an ideal month to focus on children caught in the midst of divorce. So, January is the International Child-Centered Divorce … [Read more...] about January 2025 is the 17th Anniversary of January being the International Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month
The Role of the Financial Neutral in Divorce Proceedings
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally taxing process, and by its nature, the trust between spouses is strained, especially when it comes to untangling shared finances. A financial neutral plays a crucial role in providing education, clarity and objectivity amidst the turmoil. Let's delve into the significant ways a financial neutral assists in navigating the financial aspects of … [Read more...] about The Role of the Financial Neutral in Divorce Proceedings
How to Get The Most Out of Your Collaborative Divorce
A Collaborative Divorce provides a unique opportunity to leverage each team member and the whole to move your divorce forward in a way that builds instead of depletes your co-parent relationship, protects the kids and generates agreements through understanding and analyzing information before creating options. The Collaborative Divorce includes attorneys and coaches for each person and one … [Read more...] about How to Get The Most Out of Your Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce Empowers You To Shape Your Own Future
Divorce is an uncertain process, especially when it involves going to court. However, there is an alternative path that offers you more control over what your future will look like: Collaborative Divorce not only provides a more amicable resolution but also empowers you to take charge of your future. Choose the Right Divorce Process for the Right Outcome One of the key advantages of a … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce Empowers You To Shape Your Own Future
“My Husband Wants a Divorce and It’s My Fault.”
How to Build Your Self-Esteem When You are Going Through the Trauma of Divorce In my 20 years of working with women in transition, I’ve seen many women who take too much responsibility for their divorce. They feel like they are the demise of the relationship. Some women conclude that the relationship is ending because they have self-doubt and feel like they may have prioritized their career or … [Read more...] about “My Husband Wants a Divorce and It’s My Fault.”
What Causes a Divorce To Get Complicated
There are people that often say “Our divorce will be easy. We have everything all figured out.” But there are factors that can elevate the complexity of the situation. One significant factor that contributes to the complexity of the divorce are the family finances and intricacy of those finances. If you and your spouse have complex financial assets such as restricted stock units and stock … [Read more...] about What Causes a Divorce To Get Complicated
Protecting The Innocent: Navigating Custody Battles for Children of Divorce
Amidst the challenges of the past few years, children have not only grappled with the anxiety brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic, but also with the invisible "virus" of parental conflict stemming from divorce proceedings, custody evaluations, and legal battles. The prolonged turmoil between parents leaves children in a state of instability, impacting their emotional well-being and long-term … [Read more...] about Protecting The Innocent: Navigating Custody Battles for Children of Divorce
How to Prepare for an Amicable Divorce
No one goes into their marriage thinking there’s a 50% chance they will get divorced, but the fact is that almost half of all marriages do end in divorce. While few would advocate preparing a plan for divorce before any signs of trouble even emerge, once there are signs, or even more importantly, once it becomes clear that the marriage is likely to end, preparing for the process can be vital … [Read more...] about How to Prepare for an Amicable Divorce
Collaborative is Teamwork:
Beyond litigation and mediation which are so often discussed as divorce process options, a third viable way to navigate separation which we will discuss in this article is collaborative divorce. To provide some context, in litigation, one lawyer represents a spouse and another lawyer represents the other. Mediated divorce is a type of divorce that utilizes an experienced divorce … [Read more...] about Collaborative is Teamwork:
Surviving Divorce After A Long Marriage: A Roadmap To Rebuilding
Navigating life post-divorce can be an intricate journey, especially after a long-term marriage. Every step in the divorce process presents challenges and requires a profound effort to overcome. Whether divorce occurred abruptly or after years of consideration, the aftermath remains complex and life-altering. For those seeking guidance on how to navigate this significant transition, we're here to … [Read more...] about Surviving Divorce After A Long Marriage: A Roadmap To Rebuilding
You Realize Your Marriage Is Over, What Now?
Making the decision that your marriage is over is one of the most challenging moments in life. It's a time filled with emotions, uncertainties, and a myriad of decisions to be made. So, what should you do when you realize that your marriage is over? First and foremost, resist the urge to panic. Regardless of whether you're the one initiating the end of the marriage or receiving this news, the … [Read more...] about You Realize Your Marriage Is Over, What Now?
Are There Different Kinds of Divorce Lawyers?
Are there different types of divorce lawyers, and how do you choose what is going to be best for you? There are different types of divorce lawyers, who take different approaches and it is important to align your needs with the attorney's philosophy. Two Types of Divorce Attorneys Divorce lawyers can be broadly classified into two main categories: 1) Litigating attorneys … [Read more...] about Are There Different Kinds of Divorce Lawyers?
New Research Finds The Lack Of Parent-Adult-Child Connectedness Negatively Impacts The Well-Being Of Parents Of Gray Divorce & Can Deliver A Severe Blow To Their Recovery
For the past three decades, the divorce rate for those 50 and older, known as "gray divorce," has continued to climb in the U.S. and abroad. In 1990, 9% of persons getting divorced were aged 50 and older. By 2019, more than 36% of people getting divorced were at least age 50. Researchers predict that by 2030, the divorce rate for this population will grow by another third. Divorce is the second … [Read more...] about New Research Finds The Lack Of Parent-Adult-Child Connectedness Negatively Impacts The Well-Being Of Parents Of Gray Divorce & Can Deliver A Severe Blow To Their Recovery
What To Do When You Realize Your Marriage Is Over
The holiday season often sees couples putting off divorce decisions, but whether it is the holiday season or any other time of the year, if you've realized that your marriage is over it is important to start taking certain steps. Here are some valuable insights on how to navigate this difficult journey. 1. Seek Professional Guidance: The first and most crucial step is to find a divorce … [Read more...] about What To Do When You Realize Your Marriage Is Over
Scared To Divorce: Is This The Last Christmas (or Diwali or Hanukkah)?
For parents who are considering divorce, the prospect of having to change holiday traditions can be daunting. From the time the kids are very small, many parents love to create traditions for religious and civic holidays. Repeating those traditions by having the same foods and activities can be deeply grounding and fulfilling for children and parents alike. When you divorce, change is part of the … [Read more...] about Scared To Divorce: Is This The Last Christmas (or Diwali or Hanukkah)?
Life Post-Divorce: Crafting Your Future with Purpose
Divorce is an emotionally tumultuous journey, akin to a grieving process. However, it is important to remember that there is life after divorce. There are ways to navigate this transition and shape a meaningful future: This journey is a personal one, and there’s no universal timeline for healing and moving forward. By staying true to yourself and being patient, you can craft a … [Read more...] about Life Post-Divorce: Crafting Your Future with Purpose
Navigating Social Media During Divorce: A Crucial Guide
Divorce brings many stressful experiences. Emotions can run high, and there may be an urge to share every aspect of your life on social media. However, during a divorce, it is important to be cautious and restrained when it comes to your online presence. Here are some guidelines to consider: While social media can be a valuable tool for staying connected and sharing your life with … [Read more...] about Navigating Social Media During Divorce: A Crucial Guide
Is It Possible To Achieve a Healthy Divorce?
Divorce is often synonymous with turmoil, heartache, and bitter disputes. However, is it possible to achieve a healthy divorce? The answer seems to depend on the approach that the couple decides to take. Traditionally, divorce is thought of as a courtroom battleground, where each party vies to prove their side while attempting to discredit the other. This adversarial approach leaves behind a … [Read more...] about Is It Possible To Achieve a Healthy Divorce?
Navigating Business Valuation in Divorce Proceedings
As complex as divorce is, it can be especially difficult when business assets are involved. Business valuation specialists play a pivotal role in determining the value of a business in divorce proceedings. There are crucial aspects in conducting a business valuation for divorce cases. Starting Point: Financial Statements and Tax Returns Business valuation specialists primarily rely on … [Read more...] about Navigating Business Valuation in Divorce Proceedings
Emotions Are Expensive. Realities That Your Divorce Attorney May Not Be Telling You.
Divorce can be expensive, especially in a state like California. Most people point the finger at the lawyers – they’re expensive and they charge for everything (calls, emails, research). In fact, in California, Divorce is big business. In preparation for a training, I was going to do on move-away cases (where one parent wants to move with the child, usually out of state, but far enough to … [Read more...] about Emotions Are Expensive. Realities That Your Divorce Attorney May Not Be Telling You.
When A Professional or Client is Adversarial/Positional . . .
originally posted at Collaborative Practice California Coaching for Mediations/Collaborative Divorces Points of Coaching for Any Negotiations: In Mediations/Collaborative Divorces, [ . . . Nice way to say that mediated or collaborative divorces aren’t arenas where you'll be supported in getting your pound of flesh at the expense of other family members.] Validate, reflect, and … [Read more...] about When A Professional or Client is Adversarial/Positional . . .
How To Let Go After Divorce
Divorce involves a myriad of changes, losses, and uncertainties that can leave you feeling overwhelmed. The process of letting go and moving forward after a divorce is unique to each person, and it requires patience, self-care, and a supportive network. Here are some helpful strategies for talking to people about letting go after divorce and finding a path to healing. 1. Recognize the … [Read more...] about How To Let Go After Divorce
The Value of a Collaborative Divorce: Priceless!
A collaborative divorce may save clients’ money over a litigated divorce, but can still be costly from just a monetary standpoint. However, the Collaborative Divorce’s value extends far beyond the financial cost. Here are some value-additions offered to collaborative clients: A Divorce Centered Around Shared Values. Clients can prioritize shared values with team support. … [Read more...] about The Value of a Collaborative Divorce: Priceless!
Collaborative Divorce or Mediation Can Help Calm Anxieties and Worries
Going through a divorce is an extremely difficult and emotional process. One of the biggest things I see when my clients come in for the first time is a concern about what the future holds for them. They are worried about what life will be like after the divorce, how they will cope financially, and how their relationships with their children will be affected. These legitimate … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce or Mediation Can Help Calm Anxieties and Worries
CalSTRS and Your Dissolution of Marriage Process
Will my spouse receive part of my CalSTRS pension if we divorce? Under California law, retirement benefits are considered community property, meaning that you each own 50% of your pension as a joint asset. According to CalSTRS, community property is the contributions (funds) you contributed, and the service credits you accrued and/or purchased while married or in a domestic … [Read more...] about CalSTRS and Your Dissolution of Marriage Process
How To Keep Conflict Low In Your Divorce
Tune In to Your Internal Station It’s natural to have a whole bundle of tangled feelings and thoughts about the divorce and leading up to the divorce. Therapy can be one of your best bets in terms of making time and space for yourself and the myriad of thoughts and feelings that are coming in. Listening in on your internal dialogue, having a place to unpack and unfold what is happening inside … [Read more...] about How To Keep Conflict Low In Your Divorce
Potential Red Flags In A Collaborative Divorce
When couples make the decision to get divorced, they are generally only familiar with traditional litigation. They may be totally unaware of a collaborative divorce process. They may express concerns about whether the process will work for them. While there are some potential red flags that collaborative professionals keep an eye out for, most can be worked through when the person’s concerns … [Read more...] about Potential Red Flags In A Collaborative Divorce
What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
Major life transitions impact people in different ways emotionally. If we look at the top 10 Most Stressful Life events, divorce ranks second after the death of a loved one (spouse, partner, child). A divorce coach is a licensed mental health professional who helps individuals navigate emotional challenges experienced during the divorce process so you can come out on the other side of the … [Read more...] about What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
How Do You To Have a Non-Adversarial Divorce?
When people consider separation, sometimes high-profile divorces come to mind. A tabloid divorce conjures up visions of anger, money, and the ultimate goal of coming out on top. A Traditional litigated divorce is when each party has their own lawyer. They generally don’t work together for settlement, but each spouse fights the other over division of assets, child custody, and child and … [Read more...] about How Do You To Have a Non-Adversarial Divorce?
Divorce Misconception: A Cheating Spouse Helps Your Case
You may blame your spouse for causing the end of the marriage by having an affair. For some people, cheating is anything physical. Some people see cheating as an emotional affair with another person. Some people could include financial deception as cheating. Whether it's financial cheating, emotional cheating, or an actual affair, the state of California does not care how the marriage … [Read more...] about Divorce Misconception: A Cheating Spouse Helps Your Case
Divorce Fears – Will I Be Able To Make It On My Own?
Starting the divorce process is often full of fear. When couples are going into the unknown and not sure what their future will hold. The party who generates the most income, fears losing money and the one who generates less fears not having enough money to live comfortably and to make it on their own. In traditional litigation, parties are pitted against each other, each trying to be the … [Read more...] about Divorce Fears – Will I Be Able To Make It On My Own?
What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
Major life transitions impact people in different ways emotionally. If we look at the top 10 Most Stressful Life events, divorce ranks second after the death of a loved one (spouse, partner, child). A divorce coach is a licensed mental health professional who helps individuals navigate emotional challenges experienced during the divorce process so you can come out on the other side of the … [Read more...] about What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
What Is Divorce With Respect?
A common misconception is that a divorce will end in anger and bitterness, with the former spouses hoping never to speak to each other again. Although that may happen, it doesn’t have to be that way. Those who divorce with “respect” can move forward with their new lives without animosity. It may not be easy, but it can be done. What Does It Mean to Divorce with Respect? Divorce with … [Read more...] about What Is Divorce With Respect?
Collaborative Divorce: When it Works and Why it Doesn’t
Most people have heard divorce horror stories from a friend, a relative, or a coworker. Everyone has seen movies where there is a divorce battle based on true events and those kinds of cases really do happen, but it doesn’t have to happen to you. Instead, consider using a “No Court” option such as Collaborative Divorce with a team approach to resolving the case. One of the benefits of trying the … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce: When it Works and Why it Doesn’t
Why a Collaborative Divorce is Good for Business Owners
Business owners often worry that a divorce will ruin their finances and their ability to keep the business afloat. They think they may lose everything and have nothing left for their future. If you are a business owner, a Collaborative Divorce, which works for almost everyone no matter the circumstances, may be the answer you are looking for. A Collaborative Divorce Keeps Private Information … [Read more...] about Why a Collaborative Divorce is Good for Business Owners
How Do I Obtain Health Insurance After My Divorce?
One issue that must be addressed in a divorce settlement is how health insurance for the spouses and the children will be handled after the divorce is final. Why Health Insurance is a Divorce Issue Most Americans obtain their health insurance through a group insurance plan offered by their employer. Employees can add family members to their plan as Dependents with premiums being paid … [Read more...] about How Do I Obtain Health Insurance After My Divorce?
What Is a QDRO?
When one or both spouses own a retirement plan, like a 401K or pension plan, a QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order) may need to be drafted in order to tell the retirement plan what to do with the plan. Having a QDRO drafted and processed takes a lot of time and patience. When a spouse has worked and contributed earnings to a retirement plan during the marriage, then those marital … [Read more...] about What Is a QDRO?
Can You or Should You Force Your Spouse Out of the House?
The short answer to the question of “Can I or should I force my spouse out of the house” is a resounding “No!” In California, there can be consequences if your spouse is forced to leave their home without adequate financial support. Why You Should Not Force Your Spouse Out of the House There are quite a few reasons why you should not pressure your spouse out of the house. Here are some … [Read more...] about Can You or Should You Force Your Spouse Out of the House?
Tips For Making Divorce Easier
1) Manage your Emotions Your emotions can easily run away with you during the divorce process. You may end up making decisions from an angry, fearful, vengeful, or frustrated place. These emotional decisions can have long-term impacts that you didn’t expect or that you didn’t bother to take the time to think about. Because of this, one of the best ways to make divorce easier is … [Read more...] about Tips For Making Divorce Easier
What Are the Requirements For A Divorce in California?
A divorce generally begins in California when one party files a divorce petition in the court. There is a filing fee, but if one cannot afford it, one can apply for a waiver. California is a no-fault state, which means one does not have to prove your spouse did anything wrong. You can get a divorce even if your spouse does not want one. There are some steps you must take and … [Read more...] about What Are the Requirements For A Divorce in California?
Dividing Inherited Assets in a Divorce
If you inherited property, money, stocks or other assets either before your marriage or during it, the inheritance, whether cash, real estate, family heirloom, or anything at all, is your separate property. If you kept the asset separate, for example, put the inherited money in a separate bank account belonging only to you, it remains your separate property and is not divided with your spouse in … [Read more...] about Dividing Inherited Assets in a Divorce
Your Divorce Is Over Now What?
It can be a tricky process to begin your new beginning. Here’s the advice to follow after your divorce is finalized. Start at the End: Finish Your Estate Planning If you haven’t started your estate planning, now is the time to begin. Especially if you have children, consider who you want things left to and which things to leave. Be sure to think in the long term: who do you … [Read more...] about Your Divorce Is Over Now What?
How Can a Divorce Coach Help You During Your Separation and Divorce?
The word “coach” has many meanings. Collaborative Divorce Coaches differ significantly from the “certified divorce coaches” who have proliferated in the past ten years. Collaborative Divorce Coaches work as part of a professional team in a voluntary divorce process called Collaborative Divorce, where a team of professionals helps you co-create your agreements respectfully without the … [Read more...] about How Can a Divorce Coach Help You During Your Separation and Divorce?
The Grief and Sadness of a Gray Divorce
Key Points Grief is a natural reaction to loss. Understanding gray divorce and the grieving process can help you and the people you cherish heal and move forward. The collaborative process can minimize pain and promote healing. "Gray divorce" is the term for a split that occurs in a couple aged 50 and older. Researchers project that as the U.S. population ages, by 2030, … [Read more...] about The Grief and Sadness of a Gray Divorce
Is There Such a Thing as a Collaborative Prenup?
When people think about Premarital Agreements (prenups), they think about divorce planning, about the doom and gloom if there’s a divorce. All marriages end – in death or divorce — but a Premarital Agreement can help you think about more than just the end of a marriage. A Premarital Agreement, particularly using a Collaborative approach, allows intended spouses to think and talk about … [Read more...] about Is There Such a Thing as a Collaborative Prenup?
I Told My Spouse I Want a Divorce – Now What?
Now that you have told your spouse you want a divorce, there are some things you should and should not do. There are laws you must follow to avoid getting into troubling situations down the line as the divorce progresses. There are also some positive steps you should be aware of and to follow these steps accordingly. What to Do After You Have Told Your Spouse You Want a … [Read more...] about I Told My Spouse I Want a Divorce – Now What?
The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce
Preserving relationships in a divorce is especially important when a couple shares children. And whether they’re minor children or adult children, you’re still their parents. They’re going to love both of you. The last thing children want to see is their parents at odds with each other. They don’t want the conflict. They don’t want to be caught in the middle. … [Read more...] about The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce
Divorce and The Family Business
When a divorcing couple owns a family business, it complicates the parties’ financial settlement. Generally, the business will be awarded to one of the spouses and how it is valued and divided depends on the type of business that is involved. When One Spouse is a Licensed Professional and Owner of the Business When one of the spouses is a licensed professional, like a doctor, … [Read more...] about Divorce and The Family Business
COVID-19 Pandemic Causes Spike in Divorce Filings
There has been a dramatic increase in divorce filings that appears to have a direct connection to the Covid-19 pandemic. In a recent survey by the AAML (American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers), 63% of the lawyers surveyed said that the pandemic had caused an increase in the number of their cases or clients. The report also indicated that the main reason for the increase was a result … [Read more...] about COVID-19 Pandemic Causes Spike in Divorce Filings
Transformational Divorce
I was shocked when my husband of thirty years told me that he wanted a divorce. In retrospect, there were a few warning signs. But I had come to a place of acceptance about my admittedly not perfect marriage and was attached to my husband and our life together. So, when he said that he didn’t love me, and hadn’t for a long time, I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. I … [Read more...] about Transformational Divorce
My Divorce Was a Positive Transformation
Divorcing couples almost always start at completely different places: one has been thinking about it for a long time, and one is completely caught off guard. Beth Proudfoot, LFMT, after thirty years of marriage, was shocked to her core. Given the choice, though, she decided on a Collaborative Divorce. What followed was a complete change in her life trajectory. “For weeks after … [Read more...] about My Divorce Was a Positive Transformation
What Is Gray Divorce? Couples Over 50 Are Divorcing in Record Numbers
The American Association of Retired Persons coined the term “gray divorce” in 2004 when it published a study about divorce at midlife and beyond. In 2012, researchers at Bowling Green State University named this phenomenon the “gray divorce revolution.” Their study found the divorce rate for the U.S. population over 50 doubled in those two decades and more than doubled for those over … [Read more...] about What Is Gray Divorce? Couples Over 50 Are Divorcing in Record Numbers
Can You Be Friends After You Get Divorced?
Divorces aren’t always acrimonious. Many are amicable, with spouses realizing that they just don’t want to be married anymore – and for one reason or another, they want to stay in touch. Can they go so far as to remain friends? It is possible to be friends with an ex-spouse. It is also possible to have that friendship take a bad turn if you don’t handle the situation … [Read more...] about Can You Be Friends After You Get Divorced?
The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce vs Other Options
Divorce is a complicated process because while it is a legal process it is also an emotional process, and it is a financial process. One of the main benefits of Collaborative Divorce is that it involves a team approach - a team of professionals to guide you through the legal, emotional, and financial aspects of your divorce. Collaborative Divorce - Emotional Benefits For most people … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce vs Other Options
3 Tips for Self-Care During Divorce
Taking care of yourself during the divorce process is extremely important. People going through a divorce benefit from remaining positive, but this can be difficult to do when the most common emotions around this transition are fear, grief, and anger. Here are three self care tips to make the divorce process easier. 1) Go to Counseling People going through a divorce should consider … [Read more...] about 3 Tips for Self-Care During Divorce
Managing Mental Health During Divorce
Research has shown that out of 49 life events, divorce is the second most stressful experience of a person’s life. The only thing more stressful is the death of a spouse. Getting the right support while in the divorce process is crucial to a person’s mental health and the ability to make good decisions. Help from a Licensed Mental Health Professional Going through the divorce … [Read more...] about Managing Mental Health During Divorce
5 Things To Know About Collaborative Divorce In California
Not all divorces need to be long, drawn-out litigious experiences, with both parties fighting it out in court over assets and time with the children. Rather, more and more spouses are turning to collaborative divorce as a way to come to agreements on everything from property division to child custody. In the most basic of terms, with collaborative divorce, each spouse retains his … [Read more...] about 5 Things To Know About Collaborative Divorce In California
Privacy and Confidentiality in Divorce
Divorce is a painful process. Even if you and your partner agree with getting divorced, there are going to be some uncomfortable issues that arise. You and your soon-to-be ex-partner need to discuss important issues, such as child custody, child support and how to divide up your property. The process becomes much more difficult knowing that you will have to share these intimate … [Read more...] about Privacy and Confidentiality in Divorce
It Takes a Village to Get Through a Divorce
“It takes a village to raise a child” is an African proverb that means that an entire community of people must interact with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment. We have many villages throughout our lives. There is our village through school—including parents, teachers, and friends; a village through our career—mentors, networking groups, … [Read more...] about It Takes a Village to Get Through a Divorce
How To Ask For a Divorce Peacefully
The decision to divorce is a life-changing one and should not be entered into blithely. After you decide, take time to prepare how you will tell your spouse, which includes what you are going to say, when, and where. Meeting with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist to discuss, plan, and rehearse the particulars can help you feel prepared. Consulting with family lawyers, … [Read more...] about How To Ask For a Divorce Peacefully
The Many Losses of a Divorce
Divorce is filled with many losses: the loss of the life you knew, the future you imagined, and the stability you thought you had had. With a divorce you are exorcizing the old and harvesting the new. The question is, how can you healthfully manage the losses of the divorce and create a hopeful future? A Collaborative Divorce can give you the tools and support you need … [Read more...] about The Many Losses of a Divorce
Privacy and Confidentiality in a Divorce
Maintaining privacy during a divorce is critical for the well-being of everyone involved, but the intensity of emotions sometimes makes that difficult. The process goes smoother when both parties respect each other’s privacy. Here are a few tips on maintaining privacy in a divorce. Maintain Privacy for Your Spouse Both spouses should refrain from speaking negatively and breaching … [Read more...] about Privacy and Confidentiality in a Divorce
I WANT A DIVORCE – MY SPOUSE DOESN’T
“We are in a tricky spot because I want a divorce and my husband does not.” [We do not mean this is a gender specific concern. We have heard it from both husbands and wives. This is just an actual recent example of the situation]. As you can imagine, wife’s concern not an unusual circumstance. We often get some version of this comment from spouses seeking a consultation. … [Read more...] about I WANT A DIVORCE – MY SPOUSE DOESN’T
Emotions in Divorce
There is no getting around the fact that divorce is a highly emotional process that people respond to in a variety of ways. Some adapt to the stress and changes in their life by taking care of themselves the best they can. Others look for ways to escape the emotional pain and anger through addictions like drugs, food, or work. Slow Down, Observe Your Emotions Couples do not need … [Read more...] about Emotions in Divorce
Divorce: Private or Public?
Divorce can be difficult no matter the circumstances. What you may not know is how much of your personal matter and financial information becomes public, available to any and everyone who can get to the courthouse or use a computer. This includes your children, co-workers, and friends. Many times, it can be difficult to know what can stay private and what will be made … [Read more...] about Divorce: Private or Public?
San Francisco Chronicle Mentions Collaborative Divorce in Bill Eddy OP-ED
Family courts are long-overdue at making non-adversarial divorce methods--like collaborative divorce--mandatory for most families before they use the court system (except for emergencies such as domestic violence restraining orders). I recently wrote an Op-Ed piece on this subject for the San Francisco Chronicle, the 13th largest newspaper in the United States. It was published in … [Read more...] about San Francisco Chronicle Mentions Collaborative Divorce in Bill Eddy OP-ED
How To Survive Your Divorce
Most people do not get married with the expectation that they will someday get divorced. A marriage contains emotional, financial, legal, physical, familial parts and for some also a religious or spiritual aspect. All these elements change in a divorce and it can be an overwhelming process. One of the best options for managing the divorce is to use the Collaborative Divorce process. In a … [Read more...] about How To Survive Your Divorce
Divorce: Keeping it Private
There are many benefits to a Collaborative Divorce particularly when compared to the traditional litigated divorce. Privacy and confidentially are examples of how collaboration is in the best interest of the couple and of their children. What is Public Information in a Traditional Divorce Case? Disclosure of income. In a litigated divorce, documents regarding your financial … [Read more...] about Divorce: Keeping it Private
5 Tips for Communicating During a Divorce
At this point you’ve seen all the quotes about healthy communication being the cornerstone of any long-lasting relationship. If you’re reading this, chances are you and your soon to be ex haven’t been communicating well for quite some time now. In today’s blog entry, I’m sharing some handy communication skills that will help improve the communication between you and your spouse even … [Read more...] about 5 Tips for Communicating During a Divorce
Divorce: Fear and Change
Filing for divorce is a stressful time. You are putting everything on the line to separate from someone and start a new life. The mere thought of change can paralyze even the bravest among us. Change represents a loss of something familiar and an introduction to something new. You may find yourself fearful of the uncertainty in moving ahead. You are not immune from … [Read more...] about Divorce: Fear and Change
Communicating with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
Couples going through a divorce generally already have a problem communicating. Those problems often get worse during this time with the upheaval of their lives and the change in the family structure. It is common to find that a couple’s main mode of communication with one another results in one of them getting angry and the other one giving their partner the silent treatment. This … [Read more...] about Communicating with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
What Is Effective Communication During a Divorce?
Listening deeply and without judgment helps you understand the emotions and intentions behind the spoken words so that the person speaking feels heard and understood. Listening without judgment is NOT waiting for your turn to talk or rebuttal what your partner is saying. There is a story about a world leader who attended Harvard’s world-renowned Program on Negotiation. His cohort … [Read more...] about What Is Effective Communication During a Divorce?
Benefits of Using the Collaborative Divorce Process
Collaborative Divorce is a process that puts you in charge of your divorce. In the traditional adversarial divorce process, the judge makes the final decisions. In a Collaborative case, you and your spouse make the decisions that are best suited for you and your family. Through Collaborative, we form a team of professionals who are trained in their specific area to help support … [Read more...] about Benefits of Using the Collaborative Divorce Process
What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case
Divorce Coaching is not Therapy Divorce Coaches are licensed therapists; however, coaching is not therapy. Coaches do not go into the childhood history of each client nor do they make diagnoses or prescribe treatment plans. In fact, divorce coaches do not actually treat any kind of mental illness. However, tools are provided to help clients cope with difficult feelings, such … [Read more...] about What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case
The Divorce Coach: Collaborative Divorce’s Secret Weapon in the Time of COVID-19 and Beyond
Anxiety and divorce, it’s even worse in the time of COVID-19. Anxiety is one of the most common feelings in divorce. There are so many unknowns. Where will I live? Will I have enough money? Will the kids be ok? Will I be alone forever? How will I parent alone? Am I still lovable? Am I losing my mind? I can’t function at work? How will … [Read more...] about The Divorce Coach: Collaborative Divorce’s Secret Weapon in the Time of COVID-19 and Beyond
How Does Fear Impact a Divorce?
Most people getting a divorce have never been through the divorce process. Naturally, there is a fear of the unknown because it is difficult to know what to expect. As the client, you are in uncharted waters and unfamiliar territory. It is difficult to know what your life post-divorce is going to look like. Fear should be managed because it impacts decision … [Read more...] about How Does Fear Impact a Divorce?
Can You Get A Collaborative Divorce During the Coronavirus Crisis?
The phrase “in these difficult times” has become a cliché in the months since the Coronavirus or Covid-19 virus changed the world. So much has been put on hold – even the courts have been closed — you may have assumed you won’t be able to start divorce proceedings. Even after the courts re-open, you may prefer to continue social distancing as much as you can until there is a vaccine or … [Read more...] about Can You Get A Collaborative Divorce During the Coronavirus Crisis?
Using Collaborative Divorce in a High Conflict Divorce Case
Can A Divorce Case Be Collaborative with A High Conflict Personality? The answer to that question is, “Yes,” but first, before we talk more about that “Yes,” we should talk about what a High Conflict Personality is. The High Conflict Personality (HCP) is a term that was first defined by Bill Eddy, founder if the High Conflict institute. A high conflict personality is someone that … [Read more...] about Using Collaborative Divorce in a High Conflict Divorce Case
How Do I Tell My Partner I Want a Divorce?
How you first discuss the issue can set the stage for how the divorce will proceed. Be clear about your goals and what discussion you want to have. Is it: I am feeling that things are so bad;we need to talk about a divorce if we can’t fix it. (possible outcomes include therapy, change, continued conflict, divorce).I want to talk about a divorce (put the possibility on the table, how do … [Read more...] about How Do I Tell My Partner I Want a Divorce?
Does COVID-19 Pandemic Cause Divorce?
The pandemic of COVID-19 has swept us up and dramatically changed the way we live in just a matter of weeks. Our existence has become restricted, regulated, and different than we’ve ever known. We have all become isolated in our own homes. The freedom to come and go as we wish has been greatly altered. We cannot go to restaurants, to our offices and work … [Read more...] about Does COVID-19 Pandemic Cause Divorce?
Co-parenting during the Pandemic Brings Danger and Opportunity
Separation and divorce are crises for families. The COVID-19 pandemic adds another layer of crisis on co-parents and their children, who are already stressed. The virus is endangering lives world-wide. In record numbers, people are losing their jobs, their income, and their familial and social connections. Those who still have their jobs are balancing working virtually from … [Read more...] about Co-parenting during the Pandemic Brings Danger and Opportunity
Tips for Separating or Divorcing During the COVID-19 Pandemic
These are such uncertain and challenging times for so many of us, especially those of you who are trying to work and parent your children from home without childcare. For those of you who were considering a separation or divorce before the pandemic, the stress associated with sheltering at home may have pushed you over the edge. Thankfully, you do have options. Below are some … [Read more...] about Tips for Separating or Divorcing During the COVID-19 Pandemic
Can A Divorce Be Confidential?
Many people wrongly assume that their divorce is confidential. Did you know that all documents filed with the court are part of the public record? Clients are often surprised to learn that everything housed in the court’s records is accessible to anyone. This means anyone can go to the courthouse, pull your file, and photocopy or photograph any of the court documents. What … [Read more...] about Can A Divorce Be Confidential?
Caught by the Coronavirus Crisis During Your Divorce?
How to manage COVID-19 stress on top of divorce stress Perhaps you have decided to divorce or are in the initial stages of separation. Or perhaps you have already separated, and you and your ex are sharing time with your children. Suddenly, you are blindsided by the pandemic. On top of all the stress of the divorce, now we have the stress of the quarantine. What should … [Read more...] about Caught by the Coronavirus Crisis During Your Divorce?
Recording Devices and Divorce: Why you might want to put down the phone
You may want to think twice before you use a smart phone as a recording device during a divorce. In today’s world we are surrounded by smart phones and tablets with advanced recording capabilities. This makes it easier than ever to record conversations without anyone noticing. But you might want to think twice before you hit record, because in California recording another party … [Read more...] about Recording Devices and Divorce: Why you might want to put down the phone
How Israel Substantially Reduced Litigation In Family Court
How has Israel, a place of ancient cultures and religions, reduced its divorce litigation by approximately 50% in just a couple of years? When Israel was founded in 1948, divorce was the exclusive domain of religious courts for couples of Jewish, Christian, and Muslim faiths. As religious divorce generally depends upon the husband “liberating the wife”, if a wife refuses to accept … [Read more...] about How Israel Substantially Reduced Litigation In Family Court
Is January the Most Common Month for Couples to Split Up?
According to an article in the New York Times from January 4, 2020, many lawyers see in increase in divorce filings in January after the holidays. Filing for divorce in a new year may be one of those New Year’s resolutions. “That will be the last time I suffer through another New Year’s Eve with [fill in the blank]!” According to the article, people “tend to face the holidays with … [Read more...] about Is January the Most Common Month for Couples to Split Up?
Avoid the divorce in “Marriage Story” with a Collaborative Divorce
Marriage Story is an Academy Award nominated movie produced by Netflix about the marriage and divorce of a young couple. Scarlett Johansson plays Nicole and Adam Driver plays Charlie, the parents of Henry, who are navigating the difficult waters of the end of their marriage. The movie is a remarkable and compassionate representation of a couple who still has love for each other but … [Read more...] about Avoid the divorce in “Marriage Story” with a Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce or Mediation: Which is Best for My Divorce?
For you, the decision to divorce differently may be a wise one. You may have heard horror stories about your friend or family member’s divorce. That there was a battle lasting for years; that they came out of it with relationships damaged and worse than when they started; that it was rough on the kids. That untold sums of money were spent fighting. You may have decided that … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce or Mediation: Which is Best for My Divorce?
Top 5 ways Collaborative Divorce can save on Divorce Costs
Divorce is costly, in more ways than just money. Generally speaking, the higher the conflict and the more broken the communication and trust, the more expensive your divorce will be. But, with a little planning there are ways you can reduce the overall “cost” of your divorce. There are 5 main cost factors in a divorce: Family and relationships: the impact on your children, extended family … [Read more...] about Top 5 ways Collaborative Divorce can save on Divorce Costs
Are You Afraid To Get a Divorce?
You’re not alone. After hearing all the legendary horror stories, you know you don’t want one of your own. You wonder: Will the divorce hurt my children?Will I be wiped out financially?Will I be able to have a decent home?Will I ever be able to retire?Will I be able to handle the anger, grief, and uncertainty?Will it be an ugly, expensive battle? Well, there is no magic wand, but … [Read more...] about Are You Afraid To Get a Divorce?
What are 3 Collaborative Divorce Myths?
Making the life changing decision to divorce is often overwhelming. There are many things to consider, such as how the children will be affected and how you will restructure your family moving forward. Making the decision on how to accomplish your divorce can be as important as the decision to divorce itself. Collaborative divorce can help couples move more quickly through the divorce … [Read more...] about What are 3 Collaborative Divorce Myths?
How Do I Get a Divorce in California?
Here is a summary overview of the divorce process in California. There are certain things that have to be done in every single divorce case, no matter how amicable or how contentious you and your spouse are: File the divorce Petition. The divorce Petition is filed in the county where one of you has lived for at least the last 3 months.“Serve” a copy of the Petition on the other spouse … [Read more...] about How Do I Get a Divorce in California?
Addiction and Divorce – Part 2
You have decided to divorce. How to do it? Go to a Divorce Options® class and find out how it all works. You can get a good sense of which process to use by attending this class where all of the options are reviewed. In SF and other counties, it’s inexpensive, and in some counties it’s free. Get support from family and friends for yourself and your children, and … [Read more...] about Addiction and Divorce – Part 2
Addiction and Divorce – Part 1
Considering divorce with an addicted partner? According to National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, Approx. 16 million Americans have Alcohol Use Disorder. Adding drugs and behavioral addictions to this number, it is not surprising that a lot of divorces include concerns about one or both parties’ substance use. Is this really addiction? Do I have the right to say … [Read more...] about Addiction and Divorce – Part 1
The Advantage of Child Support Calculation Through the Collaborative Divorce Process
Recently, I read an article on the internet titled “How Much Is Child Support In Your State?" taken from the website CustodyXChange.com”. Did you know that every state in the USA has its own law and mathematical formula as to how to calculate child support in its family law courts and that the use of the statewide child support calculator is mandatory if the parents go to court and have a … [Read more...] about The Advantage of Child Support Calculation Through the Collaborative Divorce Process
Why I Prefer to Assist Couples Peacefully Through Divorce
As a family law attorney, what sets me apart from other lawyers? Well, I like to think that it is my compassion, kindness, and the fact that I really care about my clients. I want to help each person transform their life and finish their divorce stronger than when they began. So many couples don’t know that they have a choice, and that they don’t have to slug it out in … [Read more...] about Why I Prefer to Assist Couples Peacefully Through Divorce
Seven Reasons to do a Collaborative Divorce
You have made the life-changing decision to divorce your spouse. Your next decision may impact your life going forward almost as much: “How will I get divorced?” You have three process choices: litigation, mediation and collaborative divorce. Here are my seven best reasons to choose a collaborative divorce. 1. Collaborative divorce keeps you out of court. The distinctive … [Read more...] about Seven Reasons to do a Collaborative Divorce
The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for Small Business Owners
Divorcing spouses who own a business have an option for a goal-oriented, amicable process: Collaborative Divorce. This process promotes cooperation and partnership instead of a public and potentially destructive litigation procedure. It provides solutions for the couple and the business that aren’t available if the courts become involved. Collaborative Divorce Is a Shared … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for Small Business Owners
Three Ways Collaborative Divorce Can Save You Time and Money
If you’re reading this blog, you have a lot on your mind. You’re considering divorce. You want a lawyer to help you through, but you also hope to save time and money. You may think you don’t have that option but consider collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce is a no-court divorce option where collaboratively trained lawyers and other professionals help you and … [Read more...] about Three Ways Collaborative Divorce Can Save You Time and Money
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Clients in Divorce
Stephen Covey’s seminal book on productivity and personal transformation, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, has a lot to teach us in how to be effective at moving through divorce. Here is an introduction: Habit 1 – Be Proactive. Take responsibility for your own experience. Do not place responsibility for your experience in the hands of your spouse or the attorneys (or, … [Read more...] about The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Clients in Divorce
How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer
Divorce lawyers have a saying that they help good people on their worst day. To get you through your worst day you need legal support from someone you trust. You also need to be sure you choose the right process. If an attorney is not trained in collaborative divorce, then you have already ruled out one positive path for completing your divorce just by selecting that untrained … [Read more...] about How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer
It’s the Season for a (Collaborative) Divorce
According to Research from the University of Washington, the number of divorce filings in a number of states consistently peaks in the months of August and March. What’s behind the monthly up-tick? Several factors could be at play. Spouses may decide to file for divorce in August, following the family vacation and before the kids start school. But what explains the spike in … [Read more...] about It’s the Season for a (Collaborative) Divorce
Self-Help is Not the Best Remedy When it Comes to Divorce
Couples divorcing are representing themselves or relying on information from the internet or a self-help center to guide them. Having practiced family law in Northern and Southern California counties for 38 years, I’ve watched the practice of family law evolve. It used to be that most couples seeking divorce or legal separation had lawyers to represent each spouse, or at least one … [Read more...] about Self-Help is Not the Best Remedy When it Comes to Divorce
Embracing the Professionalism of Collaborative Divorce Lawyers
There is a discouraging lack of civility and professionalism among litigation attorneys which has tarnished the legal community for the past 30 years as set forth in a recent California Court of Appeal decision. The case of Lasalle v. Vogel, G055381 (2019) is a legal malpractice action, wherein the Court of Appeal noted thirty years ago, in 1989, that attorneys are ‘officers of the court’ … [Read more...] about Embracing the Professionalism of Collaborative Divorce Lawyers
Gray Divorce: Over 50 and Getting a Divorce, Now What?
If you’re over 50 and getting a divorce, you are not alone. The “Gray Divorce” phenomena refers to the increasing number of people who divorce later in life. Twenty years ago, 10% of divorces involved people over 50. Today, that number is up to 25% per Dr. Susan Brown, Bowling Green State University sociology professor and co-author of The Gray Divorce Revolution. There’s less … [Read more...] about Gray Divorce: Over 50 and Getting a Divorce, Now What?
6 Factors to Consider When Deciding Which Process is Right for You
There is no bright line test when choosing between Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Divorce. However, examining the following six factors will be helpful in making a good decision: 1. How important to you is having a “good divorce?” The primary difference between Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Divorce is the level of support you will get while negotiating. Collaborative … [Read more...] about 6 Factors to Consider When Deciding Which Process is Right for You
Five Things you Need for an Amicable Divorce
Is an amicable divorce possible? If so, how is it done? Many want to have an amicable divorce but worry about how to talk about financial concerns, how to file for divorce and how to parent children without starting World War III. Couples are used to arguing about finances and often feel they get stuck in unproductive arguments and that they can’t communicate. Here are five … [Read more...] about Five Things you Need for an Amicable Divorce
Must We Say We Did Not Love? Honor the relationship that ended through a new story and rituals.
What is the story of your marriage and divorce? When speaking with your friends or family, what is the story you tell of your relationship? Are you talking mainly about the arguments or misdeeds, betrayals, disappointments, and losses? Do you focus on the negative experiences and overlook or even deny the positive experiences? Is it possible that you are defending yourself from … [Read more...] about Must We Say We Did Not Love? Honor the relationship that ended through a new story and rituals.
The Role of the Financial Professional in A Collaborative Divorce
The financial professional in a collaborative divorce plays a critical role. There are two financial professional roles and they are distinct, the Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, CDFA® and the Divorce Forensic CPA. This blog will address the role of the CDFA®. A future blog will talk about the role of the Divorce Forensic CPA. The Certified Divorce Financial Analyst … [Read more...] about The Role of the Financial Professional in A Collaborative Divorce
How Can A Divorce Coach Help In Your Collaborative Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce: Here’s how a Divorce Coach can help: Dealing with a divorce is often more distressing than people realize, and, there is a process to meet your needs, and the needs of your family; Collaborative Divorce offers clients wrap around services for all phases and stages of the divorce process. With Collaborative Divorce, not only does each spouse have an attorney, each … [Read more...] about How Can A Divorce Coach Help In Your Collaborative Divorce?
The Emotions of an LGBTQ Divorce
How can I be getting divorced after working so hard for marriage equity? You worked for and celebrated joyfully when marriage became legal. It was so emotional. You finally married your love. Now you’ve tried hard, but you are unable to happily stay together. Are you betraying the community? As a therapist, a mediator and a coach in collaborative divorce I have worked … [Read more...] about The Emotions of an LGBTQ Divorce
5 Ways Divorce in California is Different for Gay and Lesbian Couples
Divorce is hard enough for every couple. Knowing what’s the same for gay and lesbian couples, and what is different is a key to a good resolution. The good news-- the answers are knowable, and as in most areas, knowledge is power and promotes positive outcomes for all involved. Collaborative Practice (CP) and other consensual resolution processes like mediation allow both spouses in … [Read more...] about 5 Ways Divorce in California is Different for Gay and Lesbian Couples
Will a Collaborative Divorce Work For Us?
You may be asking yourself whether you and your spouse are good candidates for a Collaborative Divorce. The following list of 7 attributes will help you determine whether you and your spouse are good candidates. The more you either one or both of you match these qualities, the better suitable you may be for a Collaborative Divorce. Ability to see the viewpoint of your spouse. … [Read more...] about Will a Collaborative Divorce Work For Us?
Is it Possible to Have a “Better Divorce?”
One of our Collaborative Divorce Marin County Professionals recently published an article in Psychology Today. A new approach can improve post-divorce life for the whole family. I want to tell you something important: I know what a bad divorce can be like for a child. My parents continued their warfare for 45 years, until Mom was no longer alive. My 95-year-old dad referred … [Read more...] about Is it Possible to Have a “Better Divorce?”
Does Respect Have a Place in a Divorce?
The anger and other emotions that are usually a part of divorce make it pretty hard to be respectful—Can the Collaborative Divorce Process enable the parties to find some level of respect for each other? There are many metaphors people use to describe going through a divorce–one is the “leaver” and the other is the “leavee;” one is the windshield and the other is the bug; one is the bat … [Read more...] about Does Respect Have a Place in a Divorce?
Unbundling Collaborative Divorce Myths
The Role of Myths in Assessing Readiness for Collaboration Myth #1: Because there is no Judge in the room to hold the client’s accountable, there is a myth that one client can take advantage of the other. Truth: Despite not having a Judge, there are multiple professionals in the room and the primary focus of all of them is accountability. Each party has their own team, including … [Read more...] about Unbundling Collaborative Divorce Myths
Divorce: Raises So Many Questions
Divorce is hard, and it is one of the most painful times in anyone’s life. Fear about the future will tend to put your dreams and plans on hold. -That fear though can be reduced if you take control of your divorce by learning more about your divorce options.- A Divorce Options® Workshop is one of the best ways to begin learning what you don’t know about divorce and to help you … [Read more...] about Divorce: Raises So Many Questions