Going through a divorce is an extremely difficult and emotional process. One of the biggest things I see when my clients come in for the first time is a concern about what the future holds for them. They are worried about what life will be like after the divorce, how they will cope financially, and how their relationships with their children will be affected. These legitimate … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce or Mediation Can Help Calm Anxieties and Worries
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Divorce: What About Credit Cards in Divorce?
There are many issues that need to be resolved in a divorce such as child Custody and Support and division of the family’s assets. Division of the family debts is sometimes overlooked as an issue that needs to be resolved. Credit cards are one such debt that can be a source of contention during a divorce. Credit cards can be used for a variety of reasons, including household expenses, … [Read more...] about Divorce: What About Credit Cards in Divorce?
CalSTRS and Your Dissolution of Marriage Process
Will my spouse receive part of my CalSTRS pension if we divorce? Under California law, retirement benefits are considered community property, meaning that you each own 50% of your pension as a joint asset. According to CalSTRS, community property is the contributions (funds) you contributed, and the service credits you accrued and/or purchased while married or in a domestic … [Read more...] about CalSTRS and Your Dissolution of Marriage Process
How to Address Financial Inequalities in a Divorce
Divorce can be a difficult process, especially when there are financial inequalities between the two spouses. In such cases, it is essential to ensure an open and honest exchange of information so that both parties have a clear understanding of the finances. In most families, one spouse may have more knowledge and skill regarding the family finances. It is essential to correct the power … [Read more...] about How to Address Financial Inequalities in a Divorce
How To Keep Conflict Low In Your Divorce
Tune In to Your Internal Station It’s natural to have a whole bundle of tangled feelings and thoughts about the divorce and leading up to the divorce. Therapy can be one of your best bets in terms of making time and space for yourself and the myriad of thoughts and feelings that are coming in. Listening in on your internal dialogue, having a place to unpack and unfold what is happening inside … [Read more...] about How To Keep Conflict Low In Your Divorce
Potential Red Flags In A Collaborative Divorce
When couples make the decision to get divorced, they are generally only familiar with traditional litigation. They may be totally unaware of a collaborative divorce process. They may express concerns about whether the process will work for them. While there are some potential red flags that collaborative professionals keep an eye out for, most can be worked through when the person’s concerns … [Read more...] about Potential Red Flags In A Collaborative Divorce
What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
Major life transitions impact people in different ways emotionally. If we look at the top 10 Most Stressful Life events, divorce ranks second after the death of a loved one (spouse, partner, child). A divorce coach is a licensed mental health professional who helps individuals navigate emotional challenges experienced during the divorce process so you can come out on the other side of the … [Read more...] about What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
The Hidden Costs of Divorce
When people think of the cost of divorce, they generally only think of how much money it is going to cost — how much they are going to have to spend out of pocket. They also think about how much money they may lose in the division of assets. The focus is on finances. But there are hidden costs to divorce that every divorcing couple should consider. The Emotional Toll People often don’t think … [Read more...] about The Hidden Costs of Divorce
How To Financially Survive Divorce
Even when couples know that divorce is inevitable, many are afraid to venture forward out of fear that they will not financially survive. Issues such as how to split the assets and divide the cash flow may be of concern, but with the help of neutral financial professionals, those fears can be dispelled, and one can financially survive a divorce. From the Beginning of the Divorce Working with … [Read more...] about How To Financially Survive Divorce
Best Way To Do A Pre-Nuptial Agreement? Collaboratively
Some people feel there is a stigma around premarital agreements, but a premarital agreement can be a vital part of a marriage. For couples who do not have such an agreement, the State of California provides a premarital agreement, which is the law of community property. Many couples wish to create their own agreement which defines how property and income will be treated and “characterized” during … [Read more...] about Best Way To Do A Pre-Nuptial Agreement? Collaboratively
How Do You To Have a Non-Adversarial Divorce?
When people consider separation, sometimes high-profile divorces come to mind. A tabloid divorce conjures up visions of anger, money, and the ultimate goal of coming out on top. A Traditional litigated divorce is when each party has their own lawyer. They generally don’t work together for settlement, but each spouse fights the other over division of assets, child custody, and child and … [Read more...] about How Do You To Have a Non-Adversarial Divorce?
Divorce Misconception: A Cheating Spouse Helps Your Case
You may blame your spouse for causing the end of the marriage by having an affair. For some people, cheating is anything physical. Some people see cheating as an emotional affair with another person. Some people could include financial deception as cheating. Whether it's financial cheating, emotional cheating, or an actual affair, the state of California does not care how the marriage … [Read more...] about Divorce Misconception: A Cheating Spouse Helps Your Case
Divorce Fears – Will I Be Able To Make It On My Own?
Starting the divorce process is often full of fear. When couples are going into the unknown and not sure what their future will hold. The party who generates the most income, fears losing money and the one who generates less fears not having enough money to live comfortably and to make it on their own. In traditional litigation, parties are pitted against each other, each trying to be the … [Read more...] about Divorce Fears – Will I Be Able To Make It On My Own?
What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
Major life transitions impact people in different ways emotionally. If we look at the top 10 Most Stressful Life events, divorce ranks second after the death of a loved one (spouse, partner, child). A divorce coach is a licensed mental health professional who helps individuals navigate emotional challenges experienced during the divorce process so you can come out on the other side of the … [Read more...] about What Does a Divorce Coach Tell People Asking About Divorce?
When Should You Use a Forensic Accountant For Your Divorce?
Some divorces have complex financial issues. In such cases, a forensic accountant can be called in to analyze financial documents to help divorcing couples in the collaborative process, or in court when litigation is involved, to determine the value of assets and how those assets should be divided. They also assist in decision-making on child and spousal support. Not every divorcing couple … [Read more...] about When Should You Use a Forensic Accountant For Your Divorce?
What Is Divorce With Respect?
A common misconception is that a divorce will end in anger and bitterness, with the former spouses hoping never to speak to each other again. Although that may happen, it doesn’t have to be that way. Those who divorce with “respect” can move forward with their new lives without animosity. It may not be easy, but it can be done. What Does It Mean to Divorce with Respect? Divorce with … [Read more...] about What Is Divorce With Respect?
How Gray Divorce Affects Family Relationships: Adult Children Can Hurt Too.
When you hear the word “relationship,” what comes to mind? Many of us think about the feelings we associate with romantic partnerships, whether warm and loving or painful and heartbreaking. Yet as Pepperdine University's Dr. Louis Cozolino writes, the field of interpersonal neurobiology understands humans as individuals born into relationships. Through myriad relationships from birth to … [Read more...] about How Gray Divorce Affects Family Relationships: Adult Children Can Hurt Too.
How Can Gray Divorce Affect Middle-Aged Children?
KEY POINTS Middle-aged children of divorcing parents report a wide range of painful feelings and experiences, including worry, irritability, depression, and grief. Parental gray divorce can overwhelm middle-aged children who worry about their parents and feel pulled into alliances with parents, siblings, spouses, and extended family members. Middle-aged children of gray divorce benefit … [Read more...] about How Can Gray Divorce Affect Middle-Aged Children?
Collaborative Divorce: When it Works and Why it Doesn’t
Most people have heard divorce horror stories from a friend, a relative, or a coworker. Everyone has seen movies where there is a divorce battle based on true events and those kinds of cases really do happen, but it doesn’t have to happen to you. Instead, consider using a “No Court” option such as Collaborative Divorce with a team approach to resolving the case. One of the benefits of trying the … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce: When it Works and Why it Doesn’t
Why a Collaborative Divorce is Good for Business Owners
Business owners often worry that a divorce will ruin their finances and their ability to keep the business afloat. They think they may lose everything and have nothing left for their future. If you are a business owner, a Collaborative Divorce, which works for almost everyone no matter the circumstances, may be the answer you are looking for. A Collaborative Divorce Keeps Private Information … [Read more...] about Why a Collaborative Divorce is Good for Business Owners
Divorce with Respect Week
Divorcing couples almost always start at completely different places: one has been thinking about it for a long time, and one is completely caught off guard. Beth Proudfoot, LFMT, after thirty years of marriage, was shocked to her core. Given the choice, though, she decided on a Collaborative Divorce. What followed was a complete change in her life trajectory. “For weeks after … [Read more...] about Divorce with Respect Week
How Do I Obtain Health Insurance After My Divorce?
One issue that must be addressed in a divorce settlement is how health insurance for the spouses and the children will be handled after the divorce is final. Why Health Insurance is a Divorce Issue Most Americans obtain their health insurance through a group insurance plan offered by their employer. Employees can add family members to their plan as Dependents with premiums being paid … [Read more...] about How Do I Obtain Health Insurance After My Divorce?
Can You or Should You Force Your Spouse Out of the House?
The short answer to the question of “Can I or should I force my spouse out of the house” is a resounding “No!” In California, there can be consequences if your spouse is forced to leave their home without adequate financial support. Why You Should Not Force Your Spouse Out of the House There are quite a few reasons why you should not pressure your spouse out of the house. Here are some … [Read more...] about Can You or Should You Force Your Spouse Out of the House?
Avoid These Parenting Mistakes During a Divorce
Children of all ages are stressed when their parents get a divorce. It is even more stressful for minor children who feel their own future is uncertain. They don’t know the impact the divorce will have on their own lives. Parents often make mistakes, generally unwittingly, that can make the process more difficult. 6 Mistakes Parents Make During Divorce Some of the most … [Read more...] about Avoid These Parenting Mistakes During a Divorce
What Makes a High Asset Divorce Different?
The divorce process is always stressful even for couples who agree a divorce is in their best interest. The stress is compounded when there are a lot of assets involved. The one who generates most of the income fears losing a lot of money. The one who generates less fears not getting enough. In an ordinary divorce, couples may own a home, one or two vehicles, and maybe a … [Read more...] about What Makes a High Asset Divorce Different?
Dividing Inherited Assets in a Divorce
If you inherited property, money, stocks or other assets either before your marriage or during it, the inheritance, whether cash, real estate, family heirloom, or anything at all, is your separate property. If you kept the asset separate, for example, put the inherited money in a separate bank account belonging only to you, it remains your separate property and is not divided with your spouse in … [Read more...] about Dividing Inherited Assets in a Divorce
Who, When, What: 3 Tips for Telling Children About Divorce
The day parents talk to their children about their separation will be a day pressed into the memory of most kids. Most remember vividly where they were in the room, the words that were used, and who was present. That’s why it’s really important to think hard about what you’re going to tell them and when you’re going to tell them. Here are some tips for how to tell your children that … [Read more...] about Who, When, What: 3 Tips for Telling Children About Divorce
How Can a Divorce Coach Help You During Your Separation and Divorce?
The word “coach” has many meanings. Collaborative Divorce Coaches differ significantly from the “certified divorce coaches” who have proliferated in the past ten years. Collaborative Divorce Coaches work as part of a professional team in a voluntary divorce process called Collaborative Divorce, where a team of professionals helps you co-create your agreements respectfully without the … [Read more...] about How Can a Divorce Coach Help You During Your Separation and Divorce?
Why Does Divorce Cost So Much?
Unfortunately, when a couple goes through the divorce process, emotions run high and are often the driving force for running up the costs. Traditional litigation is notorious for taking a long time and being quite expensive. A Collaborative Divorce is less stressful and less costly. Costs of Traditional Litigation In traditional litigation, each spouse has their own private … [Read more...] about Why Does Divorce Cost So Much?
Rebuilding Your Finances After a Divorce
Going through a divorce can play havoc with your finances. Generally, the same amount of money that supported one household must now be divided to support two of them. This often means, at least for a time, each individual’s net worth and household income will be reduced. If a couple can work together in a Collaborative Divorce process, you can establish new financial goals and … [Read more...] about Rebuilding Your Finances After a Divorce
Is There Such a Thing as a Collaborative Prenup?
When people think about Premarital Agreements (prenups), they think about divorce planning, about the doom and gloom if there’s a divorce. All marriages end – in death or divorce — but a Premarital Agreement can help you think about more than just the end of a marriage. A Premarital Agreement, particularly using a Collaborative approach, allows intended spouses to think and talk about … [Read more...] about Is There Such a Thing as a Collaborative Prenup?
Transformational Divorce
I was shocked when my husband of thirty years told me that he wanted a divorce. In retrospect, there were a few warning signs. But I had come to a place of acceptance about my admittedly not perfect marriage and was attached to my husband and our life together. So, when he said that he didn’t love me, and hadn’t for a long time, I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. I … [Read more...] about Transformational Divorce
What Is Gray Divorce? Couples Over 50 Are Divorcing in Record Numbers
The American Association of Retired Persons coined the term “gray divorce” in 2004 when it published a study about divorce at midlife and beyond. In 2012, researchers at Bowling Green State University named this phenomenon the “gray divorce revolution.” Their study found the divorce rate for the U.S. population over 50 doubled in those two decades and more than doubled for those over … [Read more...] about What Is Gray Divorce? Couples Over 50 Are Divorcing in Record Numbers
The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce vs Other Options
Divorce is a complicated process because while it is a legal process it is also an emotional process, and it is a financial process. One of the main benefits of Collaborative Divorce is that it involves a team approach - a team of professionals to guide you through the legal, emotional, and financial aspects of your divorce. Collaborative Divorce - Emotional Benefits For most people … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce vs Other Options
5 Things To Know About Collaborative Divorce In California
Not all divorces need to be long, drawn-out litigious experiences, with both parties fighting it out in court over assets and time with the children. Rather, more and more spouses are turning to collaborative divorce as a way to come to agreements on everything from property division to child custody. In the most basic of terms, with collaborative divorce, each spouse retains his … [Read more...] about 5 Things To Know About Collaborative Divorce In California
It Takes a Village to Get Through a Divorce
“It takes a village to raise a child” is an African proverb that means that an entire community of people must interact with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment. We have many villages throughout our lives. There is our village through school—including parents, teachers, and friends; a village through our career—mentors, networking groups, … [Read more...] about It Takes a Village to Get Through a Divorce
Dealing with Hidden Assets in a Collaborative Divorce
People choose Collaborative Divorce over traditional litigation when they want the divorce to be more amicable. The hallmark of a Collaborative Divorce is honesty. Both spouses are expected to provide full disclosure about all assets, both those known to be community property and those that they claim are separate property. In rare cases during the collaborative process, one party … [Read more...] about Dealing with Hidden Assets in a Collaborative Divorce
San Francisco Chronicle Mentions Collaborative Divorce in Bill Eddy OP-ED
Family courts are long-overdue at making non-adversarial divorce methods--like collaborative divorce--mandatory for most families before they use the court system (except for emergencies such as domestic violence restraining orders). I recently wrote an Op-Ed piece on this subject for the San Francisco Chronicle, the 13th largest newspaper in the United States. It was published in … [Read more...] about San Francisco Chronicle Mentions Collaborative Divorce in Bill Eddy OP-ED
Divorce: Keeping it Private
There are many benefits to a Collaborative Divorce particularly when compared to the traditional litigated divorce. Privacy and confidentially are examples of how collaboration is in the best interest of the couple and of their children. What is Public Information in a Traditional Divorce Case? Disclosure of income. In a litigated divorce, documents regarding your financial … [Read more...] about Divorce: Keeping it Private
Benefits of Using the Collaborative Divorce Process
Collaborative Divorce is a process that puts you in charge of your divorce. In the traditional adversarial divorce process, the judge makes the final decisions. In a Collaborative case, you and your spouse make the decisions that are best suited for you and your family. Through Collaborative, we form a team of professionals who are trained in their specific area to help support … [Read more...] about Benefits of Using the Collaborative Divorce Process
What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case
Divorce Coaching is not Therapy Divorce Coaches are licensed therapists; however, coaching is not therapy. Coaches do not go into the childhood history of each client nor do they make diagnoses or prescribe treatment plans. In fact, divorce coaches do not actually treat any kind of mental illness. However, tools are provided to help clients cope with difficult feelings, such … [Read more...] about What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case
The Divorce Coach: Collaborative Divorce’s Secret Weapon in the Time of COVID-19 and Beyond
Anxiety and divorce, it’s even worse in the time of COVID-19. Anxiety is one of the most common feelings in divorce. There are so many unknowns. Where will I live? Will I have enough money? Will the kids be ok? Will I be alone forever? How will I parent alone? Am I still lovable? Am I losing my mind? I can’t function at work? How will … [Read more...] about The Divorce Coach: Collaborative Divorce’s Secret Weapon in the Time of COVID-19 and Beyond
How Does Fear Impact a Divorce?
Most people getting a divorce have never been through the divorce process. Naturally, there is a fear of the unknown because it is difficult to know what to expect. As the client, you are in uncharted waters and unfamiliar territory. It is difficult to know what your life post-divorce is going to look like. Fear should be managed because it impacts decision … [Read more...] about How Does Fear Impact a Divorce?
Can You Get A Collaborative Divorce During the Coronavirus Crisis?
The phrase “in these difficult times” has become a cliché in the months since the Coronavirus or Covid-19 virus changed the world. So much has been put on hold – even the courts have been closed — you may have assumed you won’t be able to start divorce proceedings. Even after the courts re-open, you may prefer to continue social distancing as much as you can until there is a vaccine or … [Read more...] about Can You Get A Collaborative Divorce During the Coronavirus Crisis?
Using Collaborative Divorce in a High Conflict Divorce Case
Can A Divorce Case Be Collaborative with A High Conflict Personality? The answer to that question is, “Yes,” but first, before we talk more about that “Yes,” we should talk about what a High Conflict Personality is. The High Conflict Personality (HCP) is a term that was first defined by Bill Eddy, founder if the High Conflict institute. A high conflict personality is someone that … [Read more...] about Using Collaborative Divorce in a High Conflict Divorce Case
Does COVID-19 Pandemic Cause Divorce?
The pandemic of COVID-19 has swept us up and dramatically changed the way we live in just a matter of weeks. Our existence has become restricted, regulated, and different than we’ve ever known. We have all become isolated in our own homes. The freedom to come and go as we wish has been greatly altered. We cannot go to restaurants, to our offices and work … [Read more...] about Does COVID-19 Pandemic Cause Divorce?
What is the Real Cost of Divorce?
Facing a divorce isn’t easy, and you probably have a lot of different concerns. One of those concerns is certainly the cost of getting a divorce. And with good reason — Business Insider reports that the average divorce in the United States today costs a whopping $15,000. That said, there are a lot of different factors at play, and your own divorce could end up costing well under the … [Read more...] about What is the Real Cost of Divorce?
Can A Divorce Be Confidential?
Many people wrongly assume that their divorce is confidential. Did you know that all documents filed with the court are part of the public record? Clients are often surprised to learn that everything housed in the court’s records is accessible to anyone. This means anyone can go to the courthouse, pull your file, and photocopy or photograph any of the court documents. What … [Read more...] about Can A Divorce Be Confidential?
Caught by the Coronavirus Crisis During Your Divorce?
How to manage COVID-19 stress on top of divorce stress Perhaps you have decided to divorce or are in the initial stages of separation. Or perhaps you have already separated, and you and your ex are sharing time with your children. Suddenly, you are blindsided by the pandemic. On top of all the stress of the divorce, now we have the stress of the quarantine. What should … [Read more...] about Caught by the Coronavirus Crisis During Your Divorce?
What Is A Child Centered Divorce?
A child is without question the most valuable and precious thing that can result from marriage. A child is far more important than any tangible possession. Yet, divorce can be messy, heart wrenching, and emotional, and a child is sometimes treated as an afterthought of the situation. All too often, parents choose to get a divorce, battle through legal ties and financial dissection, and … [Read more...] about What Is A Child Centered Divorce?
Is January the Most Common Month for Couples to Split Up?
According to an article in the New York Times from January 4, 2020, many lawyers see in increase in divorce filings in January after the holidays. Filing for divorce in a new year may be one of those New Year’s resolutions. “That will be the last time I suffer through another New Year’s Eve with [fill in the blank]!” According to the article, people “tend to face the holidays with … [Read more...] about Is January the Most Common Month for Couples to Split Up?
Child-Centered Divorce: How to Focus On the Children’s Needs
Divorce is never easy on anyone but can be especially difficult for children involved. To allow the process and transition to be as smooth as possible for children, using the framework of a Child-Centered Divorce can provide the best results. In a Child-Center Divorce, the divorce process is focused on the best situation and circumstances for the couple’s children while leaving the … [Read more...] about Child-Centered Divorce: How to Focus On the Children’s Needs
Children and Divorce
The research is crystal clear — children of divorce fare much better when parents are able to protect them from the adults’ conflict. They do this by making a conscious choice to prioritize their children’s interests, control their urge to fight, and work as a team. This does not mean that you give in to the other parent on everything to avoid a fight or give up your rights. But it … [Read more...] about Children and Divorce
Avoid the divorce in “Marriage Story” with a Collaborative Divorce
Marriage Story is an Academy Award nominated movie produced by Netflix about the marriage and divorce of a young couple. Scarlett Johansson plays Nicole and Adam Driver plays Charlie, the parents of Henry, who are navigating the difficult waters of the end of their marriage. The movie is a remarkable and compassionate representation of a couple who still has love for each other but … [Read more...] about Avoid the divorce in “Marriage Story” with a Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce or Mediation: Which is Best for My Divorce?
For you, the decision to divorce differently may be a wise one. You may have heard horror stories about your friend or family member’s divorce. That there was a battle lasting for years; that they came out of it with relationships damaged and worse than when they started; that it was rough on the kids. That untold sums of money were spent fighting. You may have decided that … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce or Mediation: Which is Best for My Divorce?
Top 5 ways Collaborative Divorce can save on Divorce Costs
Divorce is costly, in more ways than just money. Generally speaking, the higher the conflict and the more broken the communication and trust, the more expensive your divorce will be. But, with a little planning there are ways you can reduce the overall “cost” of your divorce. There are 5 main cost factors in a divorce: Family and relationships: the impact on your children, extended family … [Read more...] about Top 5 ways Collaborative Divorce can save on Divorce Costs
Are You Afraid To Get a Divorce?
You’re not alone. After hearing all the legendary horror stories, you know you don’t want one of your own. You wonder: Will the divorce hurt my children?Will I be wiped out financially?Will I be able to have a decent home?Will I ever be able to retire?Will I be able to handle the anger, grief, and uncertainty?Will it be an ugly, expensive battle? Well, there is no magic wand, but … [Read more...] about Are You Afraid To Get a Divorce?
What are 3 Collaborative Divorce Myths?
Making the life changing decision to divorce is often overwhelming. There are many things to consider, such as how the children will be affected and how you will restructure your family moving forward. Making the decision on how to accomplish your divorce can be as important as the decision to divorce itself. Collaborative divorce can help couples move more quickly through the divorce … [Read more...] about What are 3 Collaborative Divorce Myths?
How Do I Get a Divorce in California?
Here is a summary overview of the divorce process in California. There are certain things that have to be done in every single divorce case, no matter how amicable or how contentious you and your spouse are: File the divorce Petition. The divorce Petition is filed in the county where one of you has lived for at least the last 3 months.“Serve” a copy of the Petition on the other spouse … [Read more...] about How Do I Get a Divorce in California?
You Have Chosen to Divorce: Are Your Adult Children Too Old to Hurt?
The effect of divorce on minor children has been a hot topic for decades. But divorce can also significantly impact adult children whose parents are divorcing. These adult children report many of the same feelings and experiences. “My friends at college say I should be glad they didn’t divorce when I was younger because that would have been a lot worse. It’s like they expect me … [Read more...] about You Have Chosen to Divorce: Are Your Adult Children Too Old to Hurt?
The Advantage of Child Support Calculation Through the Collaborative Divorce Process
Recently, I read an article on the internet titled “How Much Is Child Support In Your State?" taken from the website CustodyXChange.com”. Did you know that every state in the USA has its own law and mathematical formula as to how to calculate child support in its family law courts and that the use of the statewide child support calculator is mandatory if the parents go to court and have a … [Read more...] about The Advantage of Child Support Calculation Through the Collaborative Divorce Process
Why I Prefer to Assist Couples Peacefully Through Divorce
As a family law attorney, what sets me apart from other lawyers? Well, I like to think that it is my compassion, kindness, and the fact that I really care about my clients. I want to help each person transform their life and finish their divorce stronger than when they began. So many couples don’t know that they have a choice, and that they don’t have to slug it out in … [Read more...] about Why I Prefer to Assist Couples Peacefully Through Divorce
Seven Reasons to do a Collaborative Divorce
You have made the life-changing decision to divorce your spouse. Your next decision may impact your life going forward almost as much: “How will I get divorced?” You have three process choices: litigation, mediation and collaborative divorce. Here are my seven best reasons to choose a collaborative divorce. 1. Collaborative divorce keeps you out of court. The distinctive … [Read more...] about Seven Reasons to do a Collaborative Divorce
The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for Small Business Owners
Divorcing spouses who own a business have an option for a goal-oriented, amicable process: Collaborative Divorce. This process promotes cooperation and partnership instead of a public and potentially destructive litigation procedure. It provides solutions for the couple and the business that aren’t available if the courts become involved. Collaborative Divorce Is a Shared … [Read more...] about The Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for Small Business Owners
Three Ways Collaborative Divorce Can Save You Time and Money
If you’re reading this blog, you have a lot on your mind. You’re considering divorce. You want a lawyer to help you through, but you also hope to save time and money. You may think you don’t have that option but consider collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce is a no-court divorce option where collaboratively trained lawyers and other professionals help you and … [Read more...] about Three Ways Collaborative Divorce Can Save You Time and Money
How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer
Divorce lawyers have a saying that they help good people on their worst day. To get you through your worst day you need legal support from someone you trust. You also need to be sure you choose the right process. If an attorney is not trained in collaborative divorce, then you have already ruled out one positive path for completing your divorce just by selecting that untrained … [Read more...] about How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer
It’s the Season for a (Collaborative) Divorce
According to Research from the University of Washington, the number of divorce filings in a number of states consistently peaks in the months of August and March. What’s behind the monthly up-tick? Several factors could be at play. Spouses may decide to file for divorce in August, following the family vacation and before the kids start school. But what explains the spike in … [Read more...] about It’s the Season for a (Collaborative) Divorce
Embracing the Professionalism of Collaborative Divorce Lawyers
There is a discouraging lack of civility and professionalism among litigation attorneys which has tarnished the legal community for the past 30 years as set forth in a recent California Court of Appeal decision. The case of Lasalle v. Vogel, G055381 (2019) is a legal malpractice action, wherein the Court of Appeal noted thirty years ago, in 1989, that attorneys are ‘officers of the court’ … [Read more...] about Embracing the Professionalism of Collaborative Divorce Lawyers
Gray Divorce: Over 50 and Getting a Divorce, Now What?
If you’re over 50 and getting a divorce, you are not alone. The “Gray Divorce” phenomena refers to the increasing number of people who divorce later in life. Twenty years ago, 10% of divorces involved people over 50. Today, that number is up to 25% per Dr. Susan Brown, Bowling Green State University sociology professor and co-author of The Gray Divorce Revolution. There’s less … [Read more...] about Gray Divorce: Over 50 and Getting a Divorce, Now What?
The Benefits of a Collaborative Approach in Division of Assets and Debts
Collaborative Practice utilizes a team approach to the divorce process. As a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), I want to share with you how I see tremendous value in a team approach to asset division. The typical litigation model using a divorce attorney includes a listing of your assets and a “reasonably fair” division worked out by the … [Read more...] about The Benefits of a Collaborative Approach in Division of Assets and Debts
The Role of the Financial Professional in A Collaborative Divorce
The financial professional in a collaborative divorce plays a critical role. There are two financial professional roles and they are distinct, the Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, CDFA® and the Divorce Forensic CPA. This blog will address the role of the CDFA®. A future blog will talk about the role of the Divorce Forensic CPA. The Certified Divorce Financial Analyst … [Read more...] about The Role of the Financial Professional in A Collaborative Divorce
How Can A Divorce Coach Help In Your Collaborative Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce: Here’s how a Divorce Coach can help: Dealing with a divorce is often more distressing than people realize, and, there is a process to meet your needs, and the needs of your family; Collaborative Divorce offers clients wrap around services for all phases and stages of the divorce process. With Collaborative Divorce, not only does each spouse have an attorney, each … [Read more...] about How Can A Divorce Coach Help In Your Collaborative Divorce?
Financial Disclosures in Collaborative Divorce
What is Disclosure? If you get divorced in California you have to Disclose… period, end of story. What does that mean and is anything different in a Collaborative Divorce? “Disclosure” refers to financial disclosures. What do we have, own, owe and make. It’s an inventory of everything you own (assets), everything you owe (debts), and all of the income for both … [Read more...] about Financial Disclosures in Collaborative Divorce
Avoiding Common Money Mistakes in Your Divorce
There are no easy do-overs in divorce. The courts do allow revisiting child support and spousal support in some situations, but wouldn’t it be better to do it right the first time? In most couples, one member is more familiar with the finances than the other. This is perfectly normal, but in divorce, both people need to understand the finances to properly divide and manage their money in the … [Read more...] about Avoiding Common Money Mistakes in Your Divorce
Will a Collaborative Divorce Work For Us?
You may be asking yourself whether you and your spouse are good candidates for a Collaborative Divorce. The following list of 7 attributes will help you determine whether you and your spouse are good candidates. The more you either one or both of you match these qualities, the better suitable you may be for a Collaborative Divorce. Ability to see the viewpoint of your spouse. … [Read more...] about Will a Collaborative Divorce Work For Us?
Is it Possible to Have a “Better Divorce?”
One of our Collaborative Divorce Marin County Professionals recently published an article in Psychology Today. A new approach can improve post-divorce life for the whole family. I want to tell you something important: I know what a bad divorce can be like for a child. My parents continued their warfare for 45 years, until Mom was no longer alive. My 95-year-old dad referred … [Read more...] about Is it Possible to Have a “Better Divorce?”
Does Respect Have a Place in a Divorce?
The anger and other emotions that are usually a part of divorce make it pretty hard to be respectful—Can the Collaborative Divorce Process enable the parties to find some level of respect for each other? There are many metaphors people use to describe going through a divorce–one is the “leaver” and the other is the “leavee;” one is the windshield and the other is the bug; one is the bat … [Read more...] about Does Respect Have a Place in a Divorce?
Unbundling Collaborative Divorce Myths
The Role of Myths in Assessing Readiness for Collaboration Myth #1: Because there is no Judge in the room to hold the client’s accountable, there is a myth that one client can take advantage of the other. Truth: Despite not having a Judge, there are multiple professionals in the room and the primary focus of all of them is accountability. Each party has their own team, including … [Read more...] about Unbundling Collaborative Divorce Myths