Below is one of my favorite handouts that I share with my clients, so they don’t think they are the only ones who need to improve their communication skills. It illustrates how complicated effective communication can be. Nine Possibilities Between what I think, What I want to say, What I believe I am saying, What I say, What you want to hear, What you hear, What you believe … [Read more...] about What Is Effective Communication During a Divorce?
During a divorce, many parents fight about what courts call “child custody.” If you ask the average person, who isn’t going through or hasn’t gone through a divorce, to define the word “custody,” the first definition is usually something like “where people go when they are suspects of a crime or convicted of a crime, like in jail or prison.” Why is a word with this most common meaning … [Read more...] about A Child Custody Order or a Mutually Created Co-parenting Plan: Which Is Best
Separation and divorce are crises for families. The COVID-19 pandemic adds another layer of crisis on co-parents and their children, who are already stressed. The virus is endangering lives world-wide. In record numbers, people are losing their jobs, their income, and their familial and social connections. Those who still have their jobs are balancing working virtually from home, taking … [Read more...] about Co-parenting during the Pandemic Brings Danger and Opportunity
California co-parents and their children are living in unfamiliar territory, that can cause unprecedented stress for all family members. Parents working from home are feeling unprepared for their virtual work life, while trying to manage their non-school age children and assist their older children with online school instruction and homework. For some shelter-at-home orders … [Read more...] about Co-Parenting in California during the COVID-19 Pandemic: Challenges and Opportunities
Often married adults include as one of their New Year’s resolutions that they are going to “start a new life” by filing for divorce. For this reason, there is an increase in divorce filings in January. This is why January is National Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month. When parents file for divorce, how does it affect their children? It depends. For decades, the research about children and … [Read more...] about Children the Wealth of Family
The effect of divorce on minor children has been a hot topic for decades. But divorce can also significantly impact adult children whose parents are divorcing. These adult children report many of the same feelings and experiences. “My friends at college say I should be glad they didn’t divorce when I was younger because that would have been a lot worse. It’s like they expect me to just … [Read more...] about You Have Chosen to Divorce: Are Your Adult Children Too Old to Hurt?