Divorce is one of life's most stressful experiences. In fact, decades of research have consistently ranked divorce among the most significant life stressors, alongside the death of a loved one and serious illness. It affects not only your emotions, but your sleep, immune system, concentration, decision-making, and physical health. The good news? While you may not be able to eliminate the … [Read more...] about Reducing the Stress of Divorce: Research-Backed Ways to Protect Your Mind, Body, and Family
When One Parent Wants to Move Away: Protecting Kids in a Long-Distance Parenting Reality
In California, we’re seeing a growing trend: during or after divorce, one parent considers moving out of state. Sometimes it’s the high cost of living. Sometimes it’s the pull of extended family in another region. Sometimes it’s a new job, or simply the desire for a fresh start. These reasons are real and valid—but for children, a move-away can feel like a second loss. First, the family breaks … [Read more...] about When One Parent Wants to Move Away: Protecting Kids in a Long-Distance Parenting Reality
Scared To Divorce: Is This The Last Christmas (or Diwali or Hanukkah)?
For parents who are considering divorce, the prospect of having to change holiday traditions can be daunting. From the time the kids are very small, many parents love to create traditions for religious and civic holidays. Repeating those traditions by having the same foods and activities can be deeply grounding and fulfilling for children and parents alike. When you divorce, change is part of the … [Read more...] about Scared To Divorce: Is This The Last Christmas (or Diwali or Hanukkah)?
Transformational Divorce
I was shocked when my husband of thirty years told me that he wanted a divorce. In retrospect, there were a few warning signs. But I had come to a place of acceptance about my admittedly not perfect marriage and was attached to my husband and our life together. So, when he said that he didn’t love me, and hadn’t for a long time, I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. I … [Read more...] about Transformational Divorce
How Does Divorce Impact Children?
If you ask any adult how their parents’ divorce affected them as children, you’ll get a sad story, even if it has been many years. It is difficult for children of all ages when their family changes. Occasionally, when the level of conflict has been high, the divorce can come as a relief. More often, though, divorce is experienced by children as extremely stressful, with lots of … [Read more...] about How Does Divorce Impact Children?